Category Archives: Social Etiquette

One of my pet peeves is not having someone return phone calls or text messages. It’s rude! Rudeness has no part in the manners of society.

Rudeness is being totally disrespectful, even egregious.  Some may believe, “they’ll get over it “. If that’s the case, it’s become a problem which both parties need to resolve.

“But I hate confrontation “, you might say. Who doesn’t? It’s always best to keep communication open, relaying one another’s concerns. That’s how a problem is solved.  No one need be insulted by being ignored. 

Families and friends all over the world will encounter different opinions.  That doesn’t mean we wage war against one another.  Lovingly  sit down and explain calmly what is on your mind. Being honest is always best, just remember being brutally honest may cause damage in the relationship.  Tactfully express your feelings and remember,  there’s always two sides to a story.

How can we be better parents, children, brothers,  sisters or friends? Love, forgiveness,  honesty,  respectfulness and loyalty.  Call your loved ones daily, if possible. Make time for our elderly parents because we owe them our gratitude for the time they invested in us!

Being  decent and caring takes action. Love is a verb! Show others they are special by giving your time!

Throughout history, man’s existence has become more complicated. What is written is open to interpretation, laws which once governed have been deemed unorthodox and living standards (morals and values), have plummeted. Man has become more savage and more despicable in the last couple of centuries.

Just today, another shooting, in a Tennessee grocery store, has taken place. It’s not only mass shootings we have to fear! It’s the lack of empathy for mankind in general. There are times in history when social acceptance meant behaving with civility. That’s not the case any longer.

Man has always possessed a dark, selfish and utterly sick demeanor but what has caused this to escalate in recent decades?

Let’s begin with liberalism. The idiotic thought that open-mindedness, tolerance, leniency and permissiveness can exist without consequences is the root of the problem. No doubt, women have made leaps of progress as far as rights, but what are the costs? As a woman, I would rather have lived in a time when we were treated with respect, honor and yes, restricted, at least from the disrespect women of today endure. A woman should should be refined, ladylike, well educated and beautiful in the eyes of society. Yet, so many are foul mouthed, cleavage bearing, leg spreaders who haven’t any idea why men no longer hold them in esteem!

And now it’s time to switch to the men. Have you no honor? To speak in the presence of a lady using vulgarity is monsterous! If dishonoring a woman isn’t bad enough, think how you dishonor yourselves and your family. There is nothing worse than those who practice no regard for traditional values and morals.

If we, as a society, cannot respect ourselves, our fellow man and most of all, our God, then our lives and those of our children, grandchildren and the generations to come are doomed to even greater misfortunes.

I asked a young man to watch his language since he was in the presence of ladies. He looked at me and repeated the same vulgar word in elevated tones several more times. I understand there is freedom of speech but there’s a point when that freedom becomes offensive!

Once again, I state, “do unto others as you would have them do unto you! Parents, teachers and others in authority must make it clear that until our society learns tolerance isn’t always the best way of doing things, we can never see an end to the abuse and death of our fellow man.

At a time in American society when there was an important need for refined manners and our own sense of “aristocracy “, Ms. Emily Post gave us ETIQUETTE!

Manners might be an easier term to use, but etiquette is an an accepted form of behavior for all to follow. Each person has a guide to responsible and presentable behavior, such as opening a door for a lady or appropriate topics of conversation during social events.

Who has been to a formal dinner and found themselves bewildered at the number of silverware before them? Which fork is used first? How does one properly introduce themselves? All questions are answered by customs and traditions set throughout history.

Why is etiquette so important? Well, it’s a way of life and its a great way to better oneself. As I’ve stated in an earlier blog, love for oneself and others is a great place to begin.

Don’t we all endeavor to make our world a greater place? If so, who we are and how we are perceived by character is imperative! Someone once told me that the dates on our tombstones aren’t important. It’s the in-between that counts!

How can people begin to understand etiquette if they have yet learned to love? Love is what pushes us forward, driving us to bigger and better lives! Behavior is what gets us there.

Not everyone believes in a divine power, but I do. This isn’t meant to be religious, nevertheless, some of my thinking will come from my beliefs.

Why rules? Every society needs them. If not for the rules (laws), there would be anarchy. Think what would happen if we were to kill indiscriminately or steal whatever and whenever we desired!

To live in communities where some type of control exists, we are taught to know it’s wrong to harm others, whether directly or indirectly. Acceptable behavior matters!

Etiquette is a set of socially designed rules which are meant to aid us in maintaining order and sophistication. The most important part is learning to love others as we love ourselves. In doing so, we are able to show respect.

It’s not as complicated as some may believe. Love goes a long way in making lives happier and healthier. It stabilizes a rocky society and ensures coexistence. So, let’s leave it at that for today. “Love thy neighbor as thyself”.